A woman who lost her husband wants her kids to learn several significant lessons about life. Making happiness a part of your life is the most important of those lessons. For her, parenthood has new challenges. that’s what she will be sharing with our readers today. Storyofsouls consider this vital in the times when after pandemic several families have lost their loved ones and some such wise words from this mom, can definitely add value to those parents and kids who are learning new things in life.
The woman recalls what happened one day after the kids returned from school. The kids told her, “Mom I got a new I’d card from school”. She wondered why her kids needed a new id card after they already had a new one. The woman says, “Have you noticed something? there is one major difference. The guardian name had changed from father’s name to mother’s name. This was the beginning of a new chapter in my life as a single parent. and her journey towards parenthood”
Self-talk
After thinking deeply, she says “Officially now my kids are completely my responsibility. Well, there will be no one else, except for me to be blamed, if I ever fail to fulfil any of my responsibilities which includes both the roles of a FATHER and MOTHER too! If I scold them for any wrongdoing, I have to be the loving arms to hug them back. If they falter in any decision, I have to be the support they can fall back on. I want to tell my kids that above all that parents can financially provide for, it is the teachings and discipline that we as parents provide to our children that are truly valuable. These are the building blocks of their foundation to stand on their own feet.”
The woman would want her children to learn from a few lessons that she learnt from that incident in their life.
The first lesson is about the importance of health and being true to yourself
The first lesson that the single mother wants the kids to learn is to take good care of their health. The woman wants the kids to know that their mouths may lie, but their bodies will speak out the truth one day. If the kids throw their tiffins away or skip exercising and deny doing it, their bodies will speak out. If they have certain bad habits or addictions and lie that they don’t, their body will speak out then too. Hence, she wants her kids to learn to be true to themselves.
She tells the kids, “You can lie to the world, but not yourself.”
The second key lesson is that education is important
Most kids don’t feel education is important since they have rich parents to back them. They can pay huge donations to get them through all admissions they wish for. But the fact is that your education remains with you even after everything else is lost. The most valuable thing about education is that no one will ever be able to steal that from you! Under parenthood, she will never ever want to give that message that anyone can buy education!
Today after 15 yrs the single mother is searching for a job to financially support her kids. The woman says they ask for her qualifications, wherever she seeks a job. So she wants the kids to learn to educate themselves for gaining knowledge and get certified for whatever they are learning.
The woman says, this is because the fact remains that people trust your certificate first and then your knowledge, until you are the best at what you do.
The third important lesson is, managing your finances
The single mother wants her kids to learn the value of money, from where it comes and where it goes. She wants them to learn to
earn before spending. The woman wants her kids to learn the art of growing money. She wants them to learn to save for the future. However, the woman also wants the kids to never stop living by not spending when they have to.
She says, “Money definitely can’t buy happiness, but it is an essential part of our survival in this society. Today more than our mental state and stability, people are worried about our financial stability. So no running from the fact that you need to earn well to live well.”
The fourth important lesson the single mother wants her kids to learn is the value of being in a family
The woman says that today the greatest support she gets is from her loved ones, including her family and close friends. She feels that a shoulder to cry on is more important than anything during your tough times.
The single mother wants her kids to build relationships. She wants them to learn to sacrifice, learn to empathize, learn to love unconditionally, learn to contribute and support. The woman wants the kids to know that this is their support system which can help them survive until they can take care of themselves.
She tells her kids, “Always be helpful and kind to everyone you meet. This is because the world is round and you are sure to meet them again, so better to keep a smile on your face always.”
The fifth and most important lesson the kids should learn is to make happiness a part of your life
The single mother wants her kids to know that people love to be around happy people. She wants them to ask for help if they need it. She does not want them to shy from saying that they don’t know.
The woman tells the kids, “Keep open to learning from everyone. Nurture your inner qualities. Don’t blindly follow the crowd. Be courageous to stand alone if you know you are right. Believe in yourself. Be trustworthy.”
Above all the woman wants her kids to learn to be a human with humility. She wants them to be grateful to the One Almighty God for this life and achieve their true purpose of being here.
The single mother finally says, “I am ready for single Parenthood with your support. Let’s embark on this journey together. Lots of love to my kids.”
Our storyteller – Seema Chattopadhyay
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