A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together; it is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences – Dave Meurer.
The relationship between husband and wife is always celebrated most than any other relationship. It is because two strangers built this relationship and become partners throughout their lives. For some, this partnership is happiness, and for some, it is a mere partnership.
Many things influence a happy marriage. I want to discuss the things which I found influential for a good marriage.
Respect
The word ‘Respect’ plays a significant role in any relationship; it is the central element of happiness in marriage. First, learn to respect each other. Respect for one’s feelings, thoughts, priorities, family, friends, ideas, and beliefs is the key to a healthy relationship. Never ignore or underestimate your spouse’s affections. If the word respect is missing in marriage, then one can not write the book further. It ends. Respecting each other will be the beginning of a good relationship. Mutual respect will never allow the ego in you to arise.
Faithfulness
The relationship becomes more vital when you are true to each other. Always be loyal and faithful to your partner. Once you built the trust, the relationship becomes more transparent. When you can see everything through this open wall, suspicious thoughts will never germinate in your mind. When you never doubt your partner, then nothing can break or interrupt your relationship. It makes both of you feel secure and leads to peace and harmony, which will nourish a healthy relationship.
Interference
The relationship is between husband and wife, so never allow a third man to overtake you. A third person can be your friend, family, colleague, or anybody else. Of course, you can take ideas from your well-wishers, but before implementing them, prioritize your relationship. The decision should be yours and not the other’s experiences or conclusions. As everyone has different skills over the same issue, their thoughts over a particular item might be different, which may be irrelevant to your problem. So, never give space for other’s opinions; you and your better half can make better decisions.
Comparisons
All smile photographs on FB, well-dressed couples in parties, regular holidaying or picnic, expensive gifts, surprise birthday or anniversary parties, etc., don’t make a perfect couple or a happy couple.
Never compare yourself or your spouse with others. It may lead to a dangerous climax. You are unique, so is your spouse. So you do things following your convenience and capacity. Try to be happy with what you have. Behind the smiles, holidays, gifts, and surprises may have some unpleasant stories or may not. So, it is better to ignore other’s fun and concentrate on your spouse’s fun.
If you are not happy with where you are and what you have got, you won’t be happy with where you go or what you get. Happiness is a choice for today. –Fawn Weaver
Acceptance and Change
Finding one’s mistakes or weaknesses is an effortless job, but rectifying them is a tough one. People always choose the easy one. If you want an easy one, you are not going to yield good ones. So, better choose the difficult but good one. All of us are not perfect; all have some flaws, weaknesses, and some opposing sides. Your spouse may be one among them. So, learn to accept as they are. Your acceptance will make you more beautiful as a person and bring you closer to your spouse. Try to strengthen them if they are weak, correct them if they are wrong, and motivate them if they feel low.
Accept them as they are and be the change you want them to be.
A great spouse loves you exactly the way you are. An extraordinary spouse helps you grow, inspires you to be, do, and give your very best. –Fawn Weaver
Love, Care, and Sex
In conclusion, love blooms where mutual respect, faith, and acceptance prevails. Love and care go hand in hand; if you love someone, you care for them, and care leads to more love. This unconditional love leads to a happy marriage.
Passionate sex is great. A passionate marriage filled with passionate sex, so much better. –Fawn Weaver
Jamuna Rani is a microbiologist turned copy editor, then a homemaker turned a mother and always wished to play with the pen, paper, and words. Giving a sense of a good time to my readers with my words will always be a pleasure.
